“I’m leaving you peace. I’m giving you my peace. I don’ give you the kind of peace that the world gives. So don’t be troubled or cowardly” John 14:27
After admitting our wrong doings, or sins, our program suggests that we make direct amends to all people we have harmed. This can be a scary prospect. God instructs us, however to not be troubled or cowardly. Not only do we make these amends to bring about justice or to right wrongs. We do these amends to improve our relationships. These amends are also for our benefit, our peace of mind, our consciouses. If we receive forgiveness from others, we consider it a bonus. God has already promised us His peace. Do not be afraid. Go boldly and make your amends. Move forward with confidence. Peace is a given.
“Blessed is the person whose disobedience is forgiven and whose sin is pardoned.” Psalm 32:1
In my mornings readings and meditations I came across the question, “What nourishes your soul?” I thought about this and also wondered what deflates it? Snow shoeing on a cold but sunny day truly lifts my spirits, feeds my soul with vitamin D. I get a renewal of energy that continues into the rest of my day, a warming of my body that radiates to my soul and from my smiling rosie-cheecked face. I realized that conflict deflates my soul. I see now why in 12 Step programs we “promptly admit” our wrongs. By doing so we patch the hole in our spirits before they deflate. In the past, when my spirit was deflated I looked to “spirits” to fill me, inflate me, lift me high. Soon came the let down, a deflation that left me even more flattened then before. Today I choose to nourish my soul, work to keep my spirit lifted and in doing so, have loving relationships, ones where we can learn and grow from one another, have a strengthening of bonds by trusting and loving one another, and being open to change. I have learned that by remaining teachable, humble, I get to be taught by my friends, how to treat others with respect and the courage to expect respect. Whenever I feel conflict in a relationship, conflict of my own making, I make amends,quickly, for this not only heals the relationship, it allows spirits to grow, spread wings and soar!